I can’t stop having sex with my stepbrother and I dread our family finding out
DEAR DEIDRE: MY stepbrother and I can’t keep our hands off each other.
Despite trying my best to move on with another man, I can’t stop having sex with him.
I dread to think what our family would say if they found out.
We met in our late teens when his mum got together with my dad.
We’d always been friends and then two years ago he started to help me see I was in an abusive relationship.
He was supportive and a real confidante. I’m 34 and my stepbrother is 36.
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On paper my abusive boyfriend was the perfect man — wealthy, from a good family and with a steady job.
Thankfully, my stepbrother gently made me aware my ex was isolating me from my friends and family.
He was controlling my money and my life.
Soon after I finished with him, I got together with my stepbrother.
It was incredibly passionate, the best sex I have had.
We stayed in my flat holed up for days, often only venturing out to get food then heading straight back to bed.
Reluctantly, we agreed to finish our liaison a few months later, knowing we would ruin things within the family.
We also knew that beyond sex and a close friendship, nothing more could happen.
We both moved on and I began dating a lovely man.
We’ve been seeing each other for three months and although it is early days, and we are taking it slowly, we could have a future together.
Shamefully, since being in this relationship I have slept with my stepbrother on three occasions.
We can’t stay away from one another.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t have both of them, that’s for sure. You and your stepbrother are not blood relatives so this is not an incestuous relationship and it isn’t illegal.
However, it is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend and sooner or later the truth will come out.
Your boyfriend sounds like a lovely man, who does not deserve to be cheated on.
Of course, it is thrilling to have a fling but you admit there’s no future for you with your stepbrother beyond a close friendship.
Tell him that you need space in order to make a go of things in your new relationship – and so you can’t see him. Then stick to it.
My support pack Torn Between Two Men will help you.