‘That’s not a marriage’ dad slammed for refusing to put wife on the deed to his house… because she’s a stay-at-home mum
MONEY can be a sore subject in even the healthiest of relationships, with couples arguing over whose turn it is to pay for dinner.
Whilst most of us end up splitting things straight down the middle, one man has come under fire for refusing to put his wife’s name on the deeds to their family home.
It seems that the saying ‘more money, more problems’ is true for this man, who revealed that he and his spouse had been arguing over a new property they wanted to buy.
Having tied the knot three years ago, the couple had initially agreed to keep their finances separate as they both earned a good salary and owned properties before their marriage.
After welcoming their first child though, his spouse decided to stay at home and care for their little one.
Meanwhile, the unnamed man continuied to work as he earned ‘significantly more’.
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Sharing the backstory on Reddit, he explained: “I set up a joint account funded entirely by me for her to use for her expenses.”
Though the family had been living a comfortable life, the couple wanted to upgrade to a bigger space meaning that one of the homes would need to be sold.
However, his wife has refused to sell her home, which is currently empty, with him telling the ‘Am I the A**hole forum’: “She does not want to sell her place, nor does she want to contribute any of her very substantial liquid investments to the new house.
"She claims her contribution is staying at home and taking care of the baby.”
He added: “(For what it’s worth, I have never discouraged her to go back to work and told her we could arrange child care).”
Frustrated by this, the husband argued that only his name should be on the deeds as his wife is not contributing to the purchase or the mortgage repayments for the new home.
Having been accused of not valuing his wife’s contribution to the family as a stay-at-home mum, he asked the forum for their honest opinions – and of course, the internet did not hold back.
Unsurprisingly, many sided with the unnamed woman arguing that her earnings would have suffered after taking time out to care for her young family.
“Most women who stay home for the babies suffer in their career ‘mom tax’ with less opportunity for promotions and pay,” argued one Redditor.
They added: “She is aware of this and that's not a fault. She's thinking about all the ‘what ifs’ [divorce].”
Another stated: “Staying at home is not entitled… Staying home is a woman is becoming a 24/7 private chef, child care worker, maid, laundress, personal assistant, secretary, driver, and more. Money makes it easier, but it's still work.”
A third quipped: "You have a business partnership, not a marriage."
Others warned the original poster to proceed with caution though, especially before selling his own home for another.
“Her decisions are selfish and questionable. Nobody forced her to stop working, they can afford childcare. She just doesn’t want to work,” argued a fourth.
Warning about the potential ramifications if they ever divorced, a fifth wrote: “Tell her she can be in the deed if you are on her deed. Fairs fair.
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“It's not fair for her to have a private asset and require you to give up yours but she not give up hers.”
We wonder what we would do in this situation.
