I’m in too deep with married lover
DEAR DEIDRE: The site manager at work stepped in to help me with a difficult employee and now we’ve started a fiery affair, but he’s a married man.
I’m a woman of 30 and work in a call centre in the human resources department. One of our employees was a woman who didn’t get through her probation.
I had the unwelcome task of telling her she was losing her job and as I escorted her from the premises but she started hurling expletives at me.
Thankfully the man in charge of the building stepped in and escorted her outside the security gates.
I was upset but he was lovely and reassured me I’d done nothing wrong.
He texted me later on to see how I was. We started text-flirting and I eventually asked if he wanted a drink by way of a thank you for intervening.
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A couple of nights later we found a nice pub and I bought a bottle of wine. He was so charming. He looked so sexy and I couldn’t believe I’d never noticed him before.
He told me he was 41 and married but his relationship was awful. He said his wife was nasty and controlling.
He walked me back to my flat later and he took me right to my front door. I invited him in for a drink but we both knew that a drink wasn’t needed.
Within moments, we were kissing and taking each other’s clothes off. He was an incredible lover. My head was spinning.
The next day he came back to my flat again. We’ve been seeing one another for months now. My friends tell me I’m crazy because he’s married. He says he’ll leave his wife but I don’t believe him.
I know things won’t change but I can’t wean myself off him.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: Your friends are right.
Statistics prove that affairs rarely result in the mistress getting her man but inevitably at least one person gets hurt. It’s likely to be you.
Right now, he is having his cake and eating it too - meeting you for sex then nipping off back to play happy families with his wife.
Of course he may genuinely be in a controlling relationship, but he needs to sort that first before you can take him seriously.
You’re worth more than having dead-end, no-strings sex with this guy. You deserve a loving, special relationship with a man who puts you at the top of their priorities.
My support pack, Your Lover Not Free, explains more about these sorts of relationships.