My driving lessons with my friend’s wife have gone too far
DEAR DEIDRE: My mate’s wife seduced me as I gave her a driving lesson. We ended up having sex in a woodland layby.
My head is all over the place right now. I’m a fit guy of 36 and I work out at a boxing gym.
My mate is 51 and he is a boxing coach. He’s been a friend of mine for ten years and I have great respect for him.
He lost his driving licence recently due to having some sort of epileptic fit. We were all there for him and supported him.
His wife is 40 and she’s been finding it difficult to get around as they live in a village with little public transport and she hadn’t ever learned to drive.
Now they need her to learn, so they can use their car again.
My friend asked me if I could take her out to practise driving at weekends and I was happy to oblige.
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We’d been out for a couple of lessons when she hit a rabbit in the road one evening. She was so shaken up I got her to pull over. My reassuring hug suddenly turned into a passionate kiss.
We were both pretty hot under the collar and so when she suggested we go to a quieter area, and then pulled into a layby, I couldn’t help myself. We had sex in the back seat — it wasn’t the longest session I’ve had but it was the most intense.
Afterwards she told me my mate hadn’t had sex with her for weeks because he’s been worried any excitement would bring on another seizure.
We’ve had sex three times since, during her weekly lessons.
I feel really bad but can’t help myself.
MORE FROM DEAR DEIDRE
DEIDRE SAYS: This arrangement doesn’t sit well with you, or you wouldn’t have written in.
I’m afraid you’re paying lip service to “respecting” your friend.
While he’s been worrying about his health, you’ve been betraying him.
You may not have been the instigator but you’ve enjoyed every moment.
Encourage this woman to help your friend and get clear support from his doctor.
Tell her that you aren’t comfortable taking advantage of a friend’s wife and do the decent thing and end it.
If you don’t, you stand to lose this friend altogether and potentially other friends along the way.
My support pack called Your Lover Not Free explains the pitfalls about these sorts of relationships.