I’m terrified my fetish will scare off my girlfriend
DEAR DEIDRE: I have started seeing a lovely woman but I’m terrified my fetish will scare her away.
Even though I like women, I’m obsessed with men’s feet and fantasise about playing with them.
I’m 28 and have had this fetish ever since I first became interested in sex.
Perhaps it dates from when I was a kid, and my brother’s mates held me down and made me suck their toes.
Now I view foot fetish porn and pics of men’s feet online.
During the summer, I find it hard not to stare at men wearing sandals.
I used to think I might be gay, but I did hook up with a guy once.
Although I enjoyed kissing and fondling his feet, I didn’t enjoy the actual sex.
I really want my new relationship to work out but my fetish seems to be growing stronger.
The last thing I want is to end up cheating on her.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It’s likely your fetish does stem from your childhood experience.
Foot fetishes are very common. Some scientists think that because feet are next to genitals in the part of the brain that responds to touch, sometimes the wires get crossed.
My support pack Fetish Worries explains more, and talking to someone should help. Contact the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists (cosrt.org.uk).
If your relationship develops, confide in your new girl. If she knows you’re trying to control this, she should understand.
