My girlfriend caught me taking Viagra – and now she’s suspicious of me

Many people need to be educated about their partner’s sexual response – and the best teacher is the beneficiary! Whatever your reasons for taking sildenafil, you could calmly and confidently say something like: “Sometimes my anxiety gets in the way so that my body/penis responds more slowly than my mental desire. My doctor offered me something to bridge the gap.” Or you could try: “A few years before I met you I started becoming anxious about my erectile functioning – to the point where I lost my sexual confidence. So my doctor prescribed something that can override that concern.” But it sounds as though your girlfriend needs reassurance, so let her know in a loving, detailed and authentic manner that you desire her. That should be the beginning of this important conversation you need to have.