I haven’t had sex with my husband for three years – and I’m ready to look elsewhere

First, it is important for you to know why your husband is now seemingly uninterested in sex. It could be that he is suffering from a sexual disorder – a blood test would not reveal all possibilities. Some physical diseases or conditions can be root causes of low libido, as can psychological problems. Perhaps he is taking medication that affects some part of his sexual response cycle. You both deserve to understand the reasons, but pressuring him for sex will only make matters worse. Gently let him know that you would like to help him find answers through consultation with a sexuality specialist. Be his understanding advocate in seeking answers.