I crave sex with my husband – but his porn addiction gets in the way

I am intrigued by the phrase you used: “When I give up waiting.” I assume you mean that most of the time you wait for your husband to initiate but that when you initiate he responds. If indeed lovemaking occurs only when you start the sexual conversation, I’m wondering why you would not initiate more often – or in fact, whenever you want sex? I know that for many women it is disappointing when a partner never initiates – they crave the validation of being desired and are uncomfortable taking charge – but there’s nothing wrong with being sexually dominant. It may be that your husband needs you to help him become aroused, especially if he suffers from certain medical conditions. Generally, as men age, they tend to require direct genital stimulation in order to become aroused, and not even his favourite porn alone would turn him on to the point of being ready for intercourse. Try not to take it personally and don’t be afraid to assert yourself to get your needs met.