My mate’s wife is rinsing him for every penny he has

DEAR DEIDRE: Even though she’s left him for another man, my mate’s wife continues to rinse him for cash.

She’s taking him for a fool but he can’t see it. She’s 42 and started an affair over nine months ago.

It wasn’t long before she walked out on him, leaving him with their two teenage kids. He’s 43 and I’m 41. He told me all about it at work.

My wife and I have tried to be there for him and his children, who sometimes come home with my kids after school.

He’s working so hard to keep the roof over their heads, but he also gives his ex money to help her out – even though she’s renting a place with her new lover.

She is a piece of work and only sees him as a cash cow. He never refuses her, despite the fact that she is well paid.

My mate says she “just needs time” and he’s hoping she’ll go back to him, so he gives her money to tide her over.

I know she’s cheated on him before. My wife told me. I don’t want to tell my pal what to do, but it is so frustrating to see him being walked over.

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m sure you’re right but, as a friend, the best thing you can do is support him and help pick up the pieces.

Try not to be too critical or he may distance himself from you. He’s more likely to see the reality if he feels he’s in a supportive environment.

Encourage him to get advice about his finances through onlydads.org, which is for separating fathers.

They can help make the best arrangements for children without favouring the mother’s rights over the dad’s.

They assist with legal issues and he can talk with a solicitor, barrister or mediator free of charge. Give him my support pack, Cheating – Can You Get Over It?, which may help.