I was divorced twice by 29… now I have a ‘platonic wife’ who does my chores & takes me on dates
WE all need a friend we can rely on through tough times, especially if our other relationships are under strain.
One woman, however, has revealed that she found her ‘platonic life partner’ after getting divorced twice before 30.
Like many women, Marissa Baker dream that she’d meet her Prince Charming one day.
She even thought she’d found him after meeting her first husband whilst studying Sports Management at college and ended up having a whirlwind romance.
Tying the knot in 2014, the pair divorced just a year later with the Florida woman saying the relationship had rapidly become ‘intense’ and ‘unhealthy’.
As the ink dried on her divorce papers though, the then-twenty-something met her second husband after matching with him on Tinder.
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Sadly, this relationship wasn’t meant to last either with the couple parting ways in November 2021 – just two years after getting married.
Despite her heartbreak, the end of her second marriage was a huge wake up call for Marissa.
She admitted: “I had a lot of fear and a lot of shame about leaving it all because I thought 'damn, how did I get myself here again?’”
Having turned 29, the US woman set about totally transforming her life and focus on herself.
Ironically though, this is how she met her ‘platonic soulmate’.
As she celebrated her birthday, she met Patty Kulak, 27, who was also in desperate need of a support system.
It turns out that twenty-something had been asked for a divorce by her husband, with the two women bonding over their experiences.
"We learned very quickly how similar we are, we both love positivity and personal development, and we don't want to go out to the bar and drink,” Marissa explained, adding: “We have built such a good connection over something that can be considered so ugly."
With Marisa’s second marriage also on the rocks, the pair soon became best friends – and haven’t looked back since.
After moving in together, the singletons now work out together, do household chores together and even go on friendship dates.
Marissa even claims they "are like wives" but insists it works because they "aren't attracted to each other".
"It is wild,” she joked, adding: “Our whole relationship has been very simple - we just say 'this is where we are at and this is what we need' and the other person is like 'boom, got it'.
"That is why we jokingly call each other platonic life partners because whatever the universe does, we just help each other figure out and it is so fun.”
Patty feels the same and recalled being welcomed with ‘open-arms’ by the life-coach as her marriage ended.
The 27-year-old said: "Marissa is exactly who I needed, and she came into my life when I needed her.
"I was so broken, it was 12 hours after the man I married left, I didn't care.
"For me to present that vulnerability, and her to not judge me for it and to do exactly what she was going to do like being there for me and supporting me, she delivered."
Whilst they share an unbreakable bond, they do admit that dating has been become slightly complicated.
"Something that comes up really early on with whatever man we are speaking to is that this is not just a roommate situation,” the government worker said, adding: “She is not just my best friend.
" This is every decision I make involving a man that I am dating. I will be running by her first."
Marissa even jokes that she would want a Patty in ‘male form’ for a husband or that her future spouse would have to share custody with her best friend.
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She added: "At home with Patty is where I feel the happiest. This is where I wanna be.
"Even those long-term relationships or moving plans we have each other in mind. It is not just the sort term everyday decisions but what are we doing in 10 years from now."
