Mum bashes ‘selfish’ husband for retiring at 59 when their daughter can’t afford to stop renting & it divides opinions
AS PARENTS, we all want to give our children the best start in life.
However, that doesn't always mean they should sacrifice everything for their kids.
But one mum has been left raging after branding her husband selfish for picking early retirement over helping their daughter.
She asked: "To think it’s selfish for parents to retire early when their kids are renting?"
In the social media post, she revealed she wasn't impressed with her husband's plans.
"Dh (husband) has decided he is going to retire at 59," she explained.
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"He has a great government pension and private pension/savings. He earns a decent £50k a year (same as me) and we have no mortgage."
While it seems they are living a rather comfortable life, especially during the cost of living crisis, it seemed their child wasn't.
No, he’s not being selfish, leave him alone
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The mum revealed that her daughter was still renting, and was struggling to save up to buy her own house.
"I said that dh should continue working for another year or 18 months and gift the money to dd (daughter) for a flat deposit."
She added: "Just to add, his job is very low stress, 9-4pm, fully remote."
While the mum was adamant her husband should stay in work and help their daughter - not everyone agreed.
She took to Mumsnet asking for advice on the situation, but the comments section was seriously divided.
While many claimed it was up to her husband if he wanted to retire early, others claimed he should help his daughter.
One person wrote: "I agree op. I’m a single mum but definitely will sacrifice to ensure my kids get onto the property ladder including retiring later. But you can’t force him."
Another commented: "For 1 extra year of work yeah I would do this for my kids, particularly if I was 59 (versus 70 or something)."
Early Retirement In The UK
The government website states you can only claim your state pension once you've reached your State Pension age.
You’ll have to wait to claim your State Pension if you retire before you reach that age.
For personal and work pensions you can take it early if:
- you’re retiring early because of ill health
- you had the right under the scheme you joined before 6 April 2006 to take your pension before you’re 55 – ask your pension provider if you’re not sure
"No, he shouldn’t keep working. Your adult children can save for their own b**ody deposit," penned a third.
Meanwhile a fourth said: "There comes a time when children have to stand on their own two feet. There is nothing wrong with helping out, but no, if someone wants to retire then they should do it when THEY want to."
"Haha! He can retire if he wants at 59. His choice,” claimed a fifth.
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Someone else added: “No, he’s not being selfish, leave him alone."
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