A MUM is begging strangers to pay for her breast reduction after ex-boyfriends said she had "the worst t*ts he'd ever seen".
Charlotte Hayes, 23, who lives with her six-year-old son Jasper in Folkestone, Kent, was diagnosed with Poland Syndrome as a teenager after an ex-boyfriend complained about her breasts and suggested she should have a "boob job".
The hurtful comments have left her feeling too embarrassed to take off her top during sex and having ‘bouts of hating herself’, which she hopes to overcome by having breast reconstruction surgery.
Poland Syndrome, which affects fewer than one in 10,000 people according to the National Human Genome Research Institute (NHGRI), stops muscles on one side of the chest from fully developing.
Over time it has affected Charlotte's posture, and means that her breasts are visibly a different size, with the left being an AA cup and the right being a C.
'WEIRD BOOBS'
While Charlotte has learnt to live with two different sized breasts, one of which is tubular, she does not want ‘weird boobs’ and would like to undergo breast reconstruction surgery.
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Unfortunately she does not qualify for the operation on the NHS and has therefore launched a fundraiser on http://www.gofundme.com/f/2cwduu-breast-reconstruction-surgery for £6,000 To help pay for the operation.
But after posting about her fundraiser on TikTok, Charlotte received backlash from people online, saying it is an "awful waste of other people’s hard earned money" and telling her to "get a job".
"People think I'm just trying to get a free boob job... They basically told me to get a job and that I'm a beggar," Charlotte said in this exclusive interview.
"Mainly, I don't want weird boobs to be honest.
"I feel like the operation would change my life and that I won't have so many bouts of hating myself.
"I have spent most of life having sex with a top on and I didn't want to wear a bikini."
'BARELY GETTING BY'
Despite working two jobs and receiving a small income from her TikTok channel, which has 15.5 million likes, Charlotte said she is "barely getting by".
To help cope with the nasty comments, Charlotte refers to her smaller breast as her "Nemo boob", in reference to the main character of the 2003 American animated movie, a clown fish with one abnormally small fin.
Charlotte was born with Poland Syndrome, named after English surgeon Sir Alfred Poland, but was only diagnosed at the age of 18.
"I was born with it, but didn't realise until I hit puberty and obviously as a young girl I was concerned that my chest looked weird," said Charlotte.
"For years my mum told me that it was normal, that my body was going through changes and that I would grow out of it, but I never did.
What are the signs and symptoms of Poland Syndrome?
POLAND symptom can range in serverity and can become obvious at birth or not noticed until puberty.
Signs of Poland syndrome include:
- missing or underdeveloped chest and shoulder muscles
- abnormal ribs that sometimes can lead to breathing problems
- breast or nipple abnormalities
- missing or abnormally placed underarm hair
- hand abnormalities such as short or fused fingers
- shortened forearm bones
- heart, lung, or kidney problems
Source: Kids Health
"Then when I was 18, I went to the doctor's about it and they referred me to a breast specialist who pointed out it was Poland Syndrome with a tubular breast.
"So I got a double whammy there - great."
'WORST T**S HE'D EVER SEEN'
One of the reasons Charlotte had decided to visit the doctor was because her boyfriend at the time had been complaining about her breasts.
"He kept banging on at me about getting a boob job and saying that I had the worst t**s he'd ever seen," said Charlotte.
"I have had lots of boyfriends make comments about it."
Recently, Charlotte tried a type of "exposure therapy", a technique commonly used to help people overcome anxiety by gradually exposing them to the situation they fear.
"I tried not wearing a bra, and wearing tight fitted tops, and just ignoring the fact that it's really obvious," she said.
"But I've just had so many comments, especially from women, which really upsets me."
This year, Charlotte attended her first ever bra fitting at Victoria Secret.
"When I went to see the breast specialist they said I could get a tailored pad that goes inside the bra," explained Charlotte.
"But I had never gone for a bra fitting in my life because I was too embarrassed.
"I've either got to have one empty cup or one spilling out."
'THEY'RE JUST UGLY'
While Charlotte has now come to terms with her physical appearance, she would like to find a solution as the condition also affects her posture and spine, which now bends slightly to the left.
"I've got more comfortable with it, not because I like it, but because there is nothing I can do about it right now," she said.
"Aside from the pain, it's just kind of ugly."
She was hoping to have breast reconstruction surgery through the NHS, but her application was rejected.
"Obviously I did present this to an NHS Trust panel three years in a row, but I got declined each year," she said.
"They've obviously got a limited amount of funding and have to prioritise really ill people."
For Charlotte to have the surgery privately will cost between £4,500 and £7,000, money she unfortunately does not have.
She is currently on a paid marketing apprenticeship scheme and works in a bar in Folkestone on weekends to supplement her income.
But having to care for her son Jasper, whose father Charlotte has no contact with, Charlotte is only left with a few hundred pounds to spend on food at the end of each month.
"I'm working two jobs and living on my own and we're barely getting by," she said.
Her dream is to one day work in the fashion industry as a stylist or designer.
"I'm interested in the fashion and beauty industry, I would love to work as a stylist," she said.
"I have big dreams... lots of big ambitions."
I feel like it will make me feel good about myself and make me do better and motivate me
Charlotte Hayes
The operation, she hopes, will help make these dreams come true and give her the confidence to wear what she likes.
"If I had done the surgery at 18, I wouldn't have been doing it for myself," said Charlotte.
"I would have been doing it for the men I was with.
"But now I am doing it for me.
"I feel like it will make me feel good about myself and make me do better and motivate me."
Her fundraiser, which was launched on March 11, 2024 has received more than £130 so far.
"I feel like I'm a pretty regular person and that I'm nothing special but the kindness of strangers always makes me feel really, really thankful.
"You just see the number on the screen and when it spills out into real life, you realise what a difference it can make.
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"I'm incredibly thankful."
To support Charlotte visit her GoFundMe page here
