My Mum’s ex-partner used to kiss me fully on the mouth

DEAR DEIDRE: My mum’s creepy ex used to kiss me fully on the mouth, now I can’t trust boys. I’m a 19-year-old girl and fear I’ll never be able to have a relationship.

When I was 12, my mum started seeing a man who, I think, behaved inappropriately with me. He kissed me on the lips when he said goodnight.

I thought it weird but never said anything to him or Mum.
They split up a few years later. But it’s had a big impact. Although he never touched me, aside from the kisses, I can’t stop thinking about it.

It feels like he took away my chance of that first kiss. Now, if a boy likes me, I run away.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You didn’t consent to being kissed on the lips, which makes it abusive. Please speak to your mum about this.

If you feel you can’t, my support pack Abused As A Child has advice, and you can get free, confidential backing from napac.org.uk (0808 801 0331).

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