I’m a sugar baby & never cooked or cleaned in my 3-year relationship, people say I’m intimidating but I know what I want
MEET the sugar baby who prides herself on never paying for anything and makes her boyfriend do all the domestic chores.
Tutu Okey, 24, has spoken out proudly about her unconventional relationship - describing her boyfriend as the ''provider and the wife in the relationship''.
Her 25-year-old partner, who doesn't want to be named, does the cooking, cleaning and laundry - while Tutu has no full-time job and has never cooked him a meal in their three years together.
On top of their unusual division of labour, the pair live 3,600 miles apart and only see each other four times a year.
Tutu ensures her man pays for her £1,200 return business class flights when she visits him in Washington DC.
Tutu, a content creator and medical graduate, from Harrow, London, said: "I have a man who takes care of me - why wouldn't I be proud of that?
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"We'll go food shopping together, but I don't do any of the cooking.
"He enjoys being in the kitchen but me not so much.
"The most I've ever done is cook an egg.
"We review finances weekly because we're building a life together.
"When I'm in the USA, he's more than happy for me to take his bank card when I need and when I'm in the UK he gives me a monthly allowance - it's the least he can do.
"I took my time finding him by not settling down with the first guy who came along and it's fair to say it's paid off."
Despite knowing each other since the age of 14 the couple only became an item in October 2021 when they both found themselves single.
"It was like something in both of us changed and suddenly we weren't just friends," Tutu said.
"We both realised that we have a love here that's deeper than a friendship.
"Regardless of the time difference, we were calling at any chance we got.
"Early on in the relationship, I established my requirements for what I was looking for in a partner.
"I was aware that some men might be intimidated by such honesty, but my boyfriend said it made him even more sure that I was the one for him.
"I needed someone who was going to cherish me - not just say they do but prove it.
When I'm in the USA, he's more than happy for me to take his bank card when I need and when I'm in the UK he gives me a monthly allowance - it's the least he can do
Tutu Okey
"I'm still figuring out my next career move, so at the moment I'm a 'stay-at-tome girlfriend' and my partner supports that.''
Tutu believes her relationship dynamic is due to "being a child of divorce" as it has made her unwilling to compromise.
During their time together, her partner has brought her a £250 Telfar bag, a premium gold necklace, numerous pairs of designer trainers, as well as holidays to Miami and New Orleans - he even surprised her with Beyonce concert tickets for her 23rd birthday last year.
"When I graduated last year, my mum initially wanted me to get a job as soon as possible but now she respects that I'm still figuring it all out," Tutu said.
"But it is my goal to get into the healthcare sector because I've got a passion to help people.
What is a sugar daddy and how does the relationship work?
A sugar daddy is a generous older man who spends lavishly on his mistress, girlfriend or boyfriend.
He's often a businessman, who considers himself too busy for conventional dating - and isn't short of a few bob.
A sugar baby, meanwhile, is normally an attractive younger woman who can't afford her luxury lifestyle.
The couple will usually establish a financial agreement early on - as well as their boundaries, such as whether or not they're considering a sexual relationship.
Some sugar babies ask for a monthly allowance, while other get 'expenses' in the form of glam holidays and shopping sprees.
While a growing number of sugar babies are university students, who turn to their 'daddy' to pay their fees.
"At the moment, I generate my income from content creation and, of course, my man helps me out.
"We want a family of our own one day and our children to see our love as an example - to find respectful partners of their own when they're older.
''I wanted a man who is intelligent, generous, ambitious and feminist.
''And my man is all of those.
I have a man who takes care of me - why wouldn't I be proud of that
Tutu Okey
"The fact he wants to wait on me is sexy and it's nice to see him being a bit of a domestic goddess.
"When the dinner he's made is ready, he'll bring the plate to me or if I've had a late night, he'll always have something ready for breakfast like a bowl of fruit or leftovers.
"He's only suggested I cook once or twice, and it was a complete fail which we still laugh about.
"He always brings my mum a gift when coming back to the UK and loves to take her out for dinner or shopping.
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"It's their bonding time and it makes my heart so full.
"He's my best friend and I can't wait to marry him - then I'll be a stay-at-home wife."
