How do I learn to trust men?
DEAR DEIDRE: After my first love cheated on me, I found myself unable to trust any man.
Someone would ask me out and I’d turn them down because I was scared.
I’m a 23-year-old woman and was in a long-term relationship until last year.
I loved my ex so much. We met at school and I imagined we would be together for ever.
But he slept with someone else, and left me for her.
I was devastated. I couldn’t understand how he could betray me.
I tried to start dating again but found it impossible. I would run away from the possibility of getting hurt again. When I realised this was becoming a problem, I wrote to you for advice.
You recommended I read your support packs, Mending A Broken Heart and Moving On, and also have counselling.
You suggested waiting to date again until I was stronger.
I’ve been talking to a therapist and now feel so much better. I’ve realised I invested too much in my relationship and need to build friendships too.
I’m slowly learning to trust again. I’ve even been on a date. Thank you.
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DEIDRE SAYS: I’m so glad you’re feeling better.
First love is intense and hard to get over. I hope you meet someone special soon.
