I never want kids and most people who do are totally selfish – my life is mine and I don’t care what trolls might say
DECIDING whether or not to have children is one of the biggest decisions you'll probably ever make.
But one woman has claimed more people should "conscious decision" to not be parents because it's "selfish" to become a parent.
Chandler Carter, 24, grew up believing becoming a mum was the next step in life until she went to college and saw child-free women "thriving".
She then realised it wasn't something she wanted and now spends her time travelling and splashes out on nice dinners and nights out.
Chandler says it can be "selfish" to have a child to have a "mini me" or for a "legacy".
She would prefer to "regret" not having a child - rather than regretting motherhood.
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Chandler, a social media manager, from New York City, US, said: "I want to be child-free.
"You can be happy. I'd rather regret not having children than having a child and regretting the role of being a mum.
"I don't fault people for having children but the reasons are selfish.
"People want them to be a better parent than theirs were or because they want a mini me.
"Having a child is inherently selfish."
Up until college Chandler thought she would go on to get married and have children.
She said: "I'd convinced myself I wanted two to three kids.
"I saw women thriving in their career and who were child-free.
"I saw all these possibilities."
Now living in New York, Chandler has big dreams to own a penthouse and one day move to Europe and doesn't see children as part of that.
She said: "I'm in my 20s living in New York City. We go out, we have fun. We spend money frivolously.
"I can go to happy hour after work. I don't have to cook if I don't want to."
Chandler says she enjoys being able to eat out and spend however much she likes on dinner and drinks without feeling bad
"My cost of living is cheaper - I only provide for me.
"If I were to have children, living in New York wouldn't be an option.
"Things in my life would have to change - sacrifices I wouldn't want to make."
Chandler likes to be able to travel two to three times a year - jetting off to Spain to see Beyoncé, and taking trips to Italy, Costa Rica and Utah this year.
She said: "I'm loving the freedom in being able to pick up and go."
Despite wanting to be an auntie to her friends' kids one day, Chandler believes having children is "selfish" and encourages people to think about if it's something they want.
She said: "I think a lot more people should make a conscious decision to not be parents instead of thinking that's the next step in life.
"A lot of people believe the steps in life are you go to college, get a job, find a partner, get married, have kids and buy a house.
"I don't think a lot of people think about having children. They do it because that's all they see."
Chandler is open about wanting to remain child-free when dating - and has had a positive response for the most part.
"Prior to that I got looks and asked 'why wouldn't you want to be a mum?' "People don't take the decision seriously.
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"They say 'you're going to change your mind' or 'you'll be lonely'.
"I want my life to be mine until the day I die," she said.
