I’m a sexpert – how to make your fantasy a reality like steamy drama The Couple Next Door… don’t make common mistake
THE weather may be turning cold but new Channel 4 drama The Couple Next Door is sure to get us hot under the collar.
The six-part thriller sees Eleanor Tomlinson as teacher Evie, who moves to a well-heeled neighbourhood with husband Pete, played by Alfred Enoch.
They are welcomed by the hot couple next door, cop Danny (Sam Heughan) and glam yoga teacher Becka (Jessica De Gouw) who are swingers — and after a night of passion they all find themselves sexually entangled in a way that changes their lives for ever.
The series starts on Channel 4 tomorrow night and Outlander pin-up Sam has teased that the action is “very sexy” but also “very dark”.
Speaking about fellow star Eleanor, who shot to fame on Poldark, he added: “She’s been in period drama and, dare I say, there was a lot of intimacy in there. So, we got along very well.”
Eleanor added: “Creating Danny and Evie’s complicated, dangerous relationship was a lot of fun.”
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The series shows what can happen when you make your sexual fantasy a reality — including the dangerous consequences.
So if the show inspires you to follow your desires, how can you do this safely?
Here, Sun Sexpert Georgette Culley offers her guide to bringing fantasies to life without the risk.
BEGINNERS’ BONDAGE
DECIDE who is going to be the dominant partner and who will play the submissive.
If you are the one in control, cover your lover’s eyes with a sexy blindfold to start.
Taking away their vision like this will help send their other senses wild.
Until you learn the ropes, handcuffs are the safest way to restrain your partner or be restrained.
You could even indulge in a bit of wax play by using a sensual massage-oil candle and teasing your partner with it.
Use a traffic-light code to communicate to each other what you like and dislike – green for yes, amber for maybe and red for no.
SEX WITH A STRANGER
IT is normal to fantasise about other people and it does not necessarily mean there is anything wrong in your relationship.
Polls show nearly a third of women and up to a quarter of men admit to fantasising about someone they have yet to meet properly.
The idea of getting physical with a sexy stranger can feel exciting and risqué – especially if you see them daily, like on your commute to work.
Instead, try initiating “just-met” roleplay with your partner and pretend to be strangers who are meeting for the first time at a bar.
After a few drinks, imagine you are booking into a cheap hotel for a naughty one-night stand.
TAKE IT OUTSIDE
MORE than half of couples get stuck in a sex slump after just one year in a relationship, research shows.
If you are more adventurous in bed than your other half, try to meet them somewhere in the middle.
Don’t jump straight into al fresco action. Start slowly.
Open the curtains and leave the window ajar to add an element of danger to your lovemaking.
Exploring other rooms in the house will also spice things up a bit.
Maybe surprise your partner by joining them in the shower.
Just make sure you invest in a non-slip bath mat first, as there is nothing sexy about a trip to A&E.
SEX PARTY INVITE
MORE than one in ten people want to go to a sex party, a recent survey revealed.
The events may sound intimidating but are great places at which to explore kinks and fantasies.
You don’t have to join in or have sex with anyone.
People are really respectful towards one another and consent is key.
Most of the participants even find the parties safer than “normal” clubs.
Check out new dating app WeAreX, which is revolutionising the way people connect and explore their sexual desires.
Designed as a platform for those seeking a shame-free environment, it is perfect for sexual experimentation, discovery and education.
Users can buy tickets to sex parties as well as join in-app workshops, master-classes and live Q&As.
BOOK A SEXCATION
ALMOST half of parents would happily leave their little ones behind to head off to a romantic destination abroad, a survey found.
There are many sex retreats, such as Hedonism II in Jamaica or adult-only boutique sex hotels in Brighton.
But if you can’t afford to go on holiday then maybe ramp up the romance at home.
Ask a favour of doting grandparents or close friends to babysit as you and your partner enjoy some intimate time together.
It can be tough leaving the kids but date nights are important.
Turn off your phone and turn on your lover instead.
Tidy up the house and roll out the red carpet for your partner.
To start, treat them to a home-cooked meal with a bottle of bubbly, then book them in for a “spa” treatment.
RULES FOR THREE-WAYS
HAVING a threesome is the nation’s favourite fantasy – with one in three couples lusting after one.
But if it is on your bucket list, you need to set clear boundaries with your partner before diving in.
To avoid any awkward situations, choose a stranger to fulfil your fantasy.
Kinky hook-up apps such as 3Fun, 3rder, and 3Sum have made it much easier to meet like-minded people.
Ask them lots of questions to make sure you have the right person, and browse the site with your partner so no one feels left out.
But if your partner is not up for inviting a stranger into your bed, there are clever ways you can fake a threesome, by opening up your personal space to other methods of pleasure.
You could watch a naughty porn film together, or add a smart sex toy to your session, which works by itself without either one of you needing to hold it.
Try the We-Vibe Sync Lite app-controlled re-chargeable couple’s vibrator (£63.99 from LoveHoney).
Three-way was ‘not pleasant’
PERSONAL trainer Andreina De Sousa, 37, and Ediney Duarte, 42, a motorbike mechanic, fantasised about a threesome.
But when the pair, from Twickenham, South West London, opened up their relationship after three years together, the reality was not what they expected.
Andreina says: “WE scrolled through kink apps and met a Brazilian woman on the 3sum app.
“I thought we would all be involved but she just wanted to have sex with Ediney while I watched.
“It was not pleasant for me so we stopped it.
“Next, we tried a sex party.
“Things were going well between me and a woman and we were about to get intimate when Ediney called out our safe word ‘meatloaf’.
“It means to us, ‘I’d do anything for love but won’t do that’.
“He wasn’t attracted to the woman and we ended up having a big argument.
“In that moment, we both realised we had not given it enough thought.
“We should have discussed the rules.
“After the party there was a lot of tension between us and we separated for a few days while we tried to work it through.
“We now know how important boundaries are.
“Having a threesome is still our fantasy and we want to experience it to the fullest but we have to find the right person.
“We’ve got sex parties coming up next month and I hope a threesome will be an early Christmas present.