A MILLENNIAL man has been left bewildered by his girlfriend’s rage over who will be attending Christmas dinner at his parent’s house.
He has been dating the 29-year-old for the past nine months and planned to introduce her to his parents at the family meal.
The 32-year-old man penned a lengthy post on Reddit explaining that his girlfriend has only ever met his family on Zoom.
He revealed that she behaved unexpectedly when she found out that a family friend’s 30-year-old daughter would also be attending Christmas dinner.
“Susy’s mom was best friends with my mom since before any of us were born,” he wrote.
“Growing up Susy was close with all my siblings and I.
“We are mostly just Facebook friends now, but she still is BFF [best friends forever] with my younger sister (F29) and she is still close to my parents.
“Susy and her mom started celebrating Christmas with my family after her dad passed away in 2005.
“Her mom passed away during the pandemic, so Susy is the only one that joins us during the holidays now.”
The man said his girlfriend became curious about Susy’s relationship with his family after seeing her in photos from last Christmas.
He added that it was obvious Susy wasn’t a relative as she is of a different race and doesn’t have any similarities.
He said his girlfriend quizzed him on whether or not Susy had dated him or any of his brothers although he described her as just a “family friend.”
The 30-year-old said he didn’t think it was important to mention that Susy would be at this year’s Christmas dinner.
Speaking about his girlfriend, he continued: “She is upset and said she is crossing the countries to meet my parents and siblings.
“I never mentioned a random woman would be joining us too.
“I didn’t think it was worth mentioning at all. She has been cold to me and is second-guessing joining the Christmas dinner.
“My GF is not the type to be insecure and she has no reason to be.
“I don’t remember making any comments that could cause a misunderstanding making her believe that I’m attracted to Susy or something.”
The man said he isn’t attracted to Susy and she is like a cousin who he only sees on the holidays.
He added that his girlfriend’s behavior seemed out of the ordinary and left him feeling like he missed something.
He sparked a lengthy discussion after asking the forum if he had been unreasonable by not mentioning Susy to his girlfriend sooner.
Many people argued his girlfriend overreacted and warned the man that her behavior was a red flag.
One person wrote: “She's traveling across countries to meet your family, which Susy, and her now departed mother, are. Not all family is by blood.
“This is honestly a pretty big red flag.
“My assumption here is your GF [girlfriend] is either racist or hyper-controlling and hiding that during your early relationship phase.
“Be clear that her attitude to your family is unkind, unwarranted, and unacceptable. If she can't make such a minor thing work, there is no future in this relationship.”
Another said: “Susy is not a ‘random woman’, she's a family friend who is going to your parent's house for the 18th year in a row.
“It's a major red flag that your GF is trying to dictate the guest list of your parent's function and isolating a woman who (I'm assuming) would otherwise be spending the holidays alone.”
A third chimed in: “I'm concerned that she either may see the family friend as a potential rival, or worse, race may be a concern for your girlfriend.
“I hope I'm just being overly pessimistic.”
Another added: “So NTA [not the a**hole], but could it just be your GF is just nervous about this whole meet up and this was just a poor reaction to something that is a surprise to her?
“Another person she feels like she has to make a good impression on.
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“She's probably just freaking out a bit in general and not acting rationally.
"Everyone seems to be jumping to a lot of conclusions based on nothing.”
