Louise Thompson reveals tragic miscarriage in emotional post – two years after traumatic birth of her son
LOUISE Thompson has revealed her tragic miscarriage in an emotional post, two years after the traumatic birth of her son.
The Made In Chelsea star, 35, shared the heartbreaking update on social media with her 1.5million followers.
She posted a photo of a positive pregnancy test, and said: “Tw: lots of stuff
“This is not now, this was last January. The night before I got on a flight. As if things needed to get more complicated.
“I only told a handful of people, but I wrote a bit about it in the book and now that it is out there in the big bad world I thought it was easier to share on here than to have anyone question it behind my back.
“I often find it easier to write this sort of stuff down than to speak about it out loud. And hopefully this will help me process it. Sharing can feel quite liberating.”
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Louise shares son Leo, three, with fiancé Ryan Libbey, after the couple welcomed him on November 16, 2021.
She continued to write to her followers: "So much has happened in the past 3 years as we all know and v v quickly. It feels like such a dense time in my life.
"As my life coach often says I’ve signed up to the ‘speedy learning course’. Riding in the fast lane. My time here on this planet has been anything but boring.
"Sometimes (actually, all the time) I stop myself from having ‘the time’ or the space to think about all the hard things that my body has been through. I love working with my coach because she teaches me to look forward. We talk about fun projects, work, relationships and all the menial bits and bobs that make up this rollercoaster we call life too.
"I haven’t worked with my psychotherapist for well over a year because I thought I was done with all of that. "
Louise went on: "That means I haven’t been forced to look back. But then I had to have more surgery 6 months ago and actually over the last week being back in the hospital to discuss potential plans for future surgeries and stuff has brought everything rushing back.
"It’s landed on me like a tonne of bricks. I’ve noticed some weird avoidance behaviours, some silly distractions seeping in, and also have found it really hard to focus on things properly. I’ve felt a little confused between the then and now and I’ve also had some rather bizarre memories pop in and I’ve cried a little bit most days which feels alien (even though I used to be called tears thompson) because I’ve been so happy.
"I’ll be honest I think there is a need for more processing. I haven’t spoken to a therapist since the stoma surgery.
"I think it might be time to try some dreaded EMDR. Please can someone give me confidence that it won’t be dreaded ?!?"
Louise went on to open up about how she discovered she was pregnant, and the tragic miscarriage.
What is miscarriage and why do pregnancies fail?
MISCARRIAGE is generally the death of an unborn baby in the first 24 weeks – approximately six months – of pregnancy.
Miscarriages may not be spoken about a lot but they are very common. Baby loss charity Tommy's estimates there are at least 250,000 per year in the UK and that one in every five pregnancies ends in miscarriage.
It may not be clear why a miscarriage happens but they are rarely caused by anything done by the mother or father. Usually the embryo has a random genetic defect that means it cannot develop properly.
Most women can go on to successfully have healthy babies in the future.
The NHS says most miscarriages cannot be prevented but avoiding smoking, alcohol and drugs while pregnant can reduce the risk.
Some of the other most common reasons for a pregnancy to fail in the first 24 weeks are ectopic pregnancy and molar pregnancy.
Ectopic pregnancy is where a fertilised egg implants somewhere outside of the womb, usually in a fallopian tube. It cannot survive and grow there so either dies naturally or must be terminated.
Molar pregnancy is rarer but happens when a fertilised egg and/or placenta does not develop properly at the start of a pregnancy. There is no single reason why it happens and cannot be prevented, though it may be more common in very young or old mothers.
A baby who dies after 24 weeks is considered a stillbirth.
Source: NHS
Continuing her post, she said: "I talk a wee but about it in the extra chapter of my book, but it’s crazy to think that Leo could have had a sibling born last September. I doubt that it was ever going to work. Probably a mere chemical pregnancy.
"Whatever it was the change in hormones or blood flow to that area caused the most insane amount of bleeding from my bum in the weeks that followed and ended up having my stoma surgery as a result. So capiche. That was the end of that dream. W
"Was it a dream though? Not something that was planned, in fact a complete miracle given the circumstances and I'll let you work that one out, although there are many circumstances that make this one very unusual, including the fact it's practically a mary and joseph moment.
"But I knew something was different to test because I felt a very unusual sense of tiredness that I only got when being pregnant last time and I felt very sick too.
"These are not symptoms I’ve experienced aside from my last pregnancy."
The star finished by saying: "My fertility and our fertility journey is something I'm only just starting to wrap my head around 3 1/2 years after the birth of my beautiful son.
"There is a lot I haven’t come to terms with, and I haven’t wanted to until now. I remember my therapist asking me about it a few years ago and she asked whether I was sad about my situation and I just brushed it off. It was all way to soon to start thinking about the idea of more anything when I had so much fixing to do.
"But I actually remembered to mention it in a medical appointment last week and it kind of brought about this flood of emotions and it felt quite necessary and quite good. I need to get it out now."
Louise was flooded with messages of support from fans, after her heartbreaking news.
It comes after she said she'd "never have the perfect family," after opening up on her secondary infertility.
Despite dreams of having four children, the condition means the inability to conceive or carry a baby to term after previously giving birth.
Louise wrote in You Magazine: "As the third year approached, I could feel something bigger than a party looming over me: the fact that I will never have the 'perfect family' I always thought I would.
"Nothing emphasises the passing of time like your child’s birthday, and I can't deny that when I look around at other friends popping out countless children, it hits home that this is not a reality for us.
"I always imagined I'd have four children. I loved the idea of a big family with lots of noise and different personalities.
"People said it would be hard work, but I liked the idea of each sibling bringing up the one behind them. I wanted to be like the Von Trapps. This will never be my life.
"I used to believe that if you work hard enough you can achieve anything, but that's not true: I will never be able to go back and fix what happened to me.
"There will always be a sadness that I won't experience childbirth again. That sadness is a part of who I am now and I need to learn how to take it forward into the rest of my life."
Sadly, Louise ended up in hospital after writing her thoughts about her health ordeal.
She was rushed in for emergency surgery 11 months after her stoma bag operation - leaving her fiance Ryan Libbey "broken".
The 34-year-old went into septic shock post-surgery.
Ryan said: "I can't believe we're back in this situation.
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"My heart beat is skipping around all over the place which is an indication of how heavy and raw it all feels.
"It's very unexpected and a difficult pill to swallow."
