I lose interest in sex at the moment of penetration – and it’s puzzling my husband

Your central pleasure centre is your clitoris, and your sexual arousal is dependent on it. For many women, connection with clitoral stimulation is lost once penetration starts, and it is replaced by different feelings which are not always pleasant. If you can teach your partner to continue stimulating your clitoris during penetration, you will have far more pleasurable sensations. Some women take matters into their own hands and pleasure themselves during penetration, while others learn by trial and error which coital positions are most likely to stimulate their clitoris. It is understandable that your confusion and disappointment over your sexual response once intercourse starts should cause you to want to withdraw from sex altogether. But you simply have to take more responsibility for your own pleasure and ask for what you need.