All I want is to meet someone and settle down but I never get any matches

DEAR DEIDRE: I’VE tried so many dating apps but my profile always says the same - no matches.

I’m so fed-up. I’m a man of 30 and all of my mates are settling down or their partners are having babies. I’ve been invited to four weddings this year yet I’m unlucky in love myself.

I have had one long-term relationship with a girl at university that lasted a year. She dumped me when somebody better came along.

I’ve got a good job, I drive a nice car and I’m a kind person.

I work hard and have a good family but nobody seems to want to get to know me. And if I meet someone in real life, like at one of the weddings I’ve been to, I quickly get friend-zoned. 

I don’t know if it’s my looks. I’m not a gym fanatic so I’m not ripped but I play football once a week. Can you help?

DEIDRE SAYS: Online dating is very much focused on appearances, so get a second opinion on your profile from someone who will give you helpful feedback. 

Is your picture inviting, do you look approachable? Are you clear about what you are looking for? 

Focusing on mutual interests is a great way to get the conversation going.

Developing a friendship is often the best way to meet your future partner so don’t get hung up on finding romance straight away.  

Have a think about developing other interests outside your football club which will have limited opportunities. You can check out meetup.com to see what else is going on locally.